If It Isn’t Free, It Isn’t Recovery
*You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. You have been asleep, and must be awakened.” – Rumi
Most people come to therapy or recovery wanting one thing:
to stop.
* To stop drinking
* To stop using
* To stop acting out
That makes perfect sense,
How could you possibly know more, when you’ve been in survival?
When you’re lost in survival, you can’t even imagine freedom.
When you are asleep, you cannot dream of being awake.
So you build what looks like a stable, functional life.
You learn to manage urges, to control your behaviour, to keep your head down.
to stop.
* To stop drinking
* To stop using
* To stop acting out
That makes perfect sense,
How could you possibly know more, when you’ve been in survival?
When you’re lost in survival, you can’t even imagine freedom.
When you are asleep, you cannot dream of being awake.
So you build what looks like a stable, functional life.
You learn to manage urges, to control your behaviour, to keep your head down.
People around you celebrate that.
But under the surface, something still feels tight:
* living in fear of your own impulses
* hiding urges
* carrying shame for thoughts you can’t admit
* clinging to the label of ‘in recovery’, terrified to move beyond it
That isn’t freedom,
That is a new prison.
A more acceptable, more socially rewarded, but still conditioned prison.
* living in fear of your own impulses
* hiding urges
* carrying shame for thoughts you can’t admit
* clinging to the label of ‘in recovery’, terrified to move beyond it
That isn’t freedom,
That is a new prison.
A more acceptable, more socially rewarded, but still conditioned prison.
What is true freedom then?
It’s not just removing substances or compulsions,
It’s reclaiming your ability to meet life from a place of wholeness – where nothing has to be hidden, managed, or controlled by fear.
True freedom is being able to stand in your humanity, even with urges present, and know you are still whole, still safe, still you.
This freedom does not come from a program, a label, or a diagnosis.
It comes from remembering who you truly are beneath the layers you had to build to survive.
* You are not broken.
* You are not diseased.
* You are not beyond help.
Trust me, I learned this the hard way – through prisons, institutions, psychiatric wards, then years of efforting my way to recovery.
Every person has the capacity to rediscover their own innate well-being.
Even those who have suffered the most still carry a spark -untouched, undamaged, waiting to be remembered.
It’s reclaiming your ability to meet life from a place of wholeness – where nothing has to be hidden, managed, or controlled by fear.
True freedom is being able to stand in your humanity, even with urges present, and know you are still whole, still safe, still you.
This freedom does not come from a program, a label, or a diagnosis.
It comes from remembering who you truly are beneath the layers you had to build to survive.
* You are not broken.
* You are not diseased.
* You are not beyond help.
Trust me, I learned this the hard way – through prisons, institutions, psychiatric wards, then years of efforting my way to recovery.
Every person has the capacity to rediscover their own innate well-being.
Even those who have suffered the most still carry a spark -untouched, undamaged, waiting to be remembered.
Imagine this:
*If your recovery wasn’t about controlling every move, but about awakening to your wholeness.
* If freedom didn’t depend on being perfect, but on welcoming every part of you – even the parts you fear.
* If you never had to trade one prison for another, from addiction to a life of hidden shame and rigid control.
* If you could remember who you really are: a human being, vast enough to hold everything you have been through, without being defined by it.
What if you could trust that you still carry this spark, no matter how lost you might feel?
* If freedom didn’t depend on being perfect, but on welcoming every part of you – even the parts you fear.
* If you never had to trade one prison for another, from addiction to a life of hidden shame and rigid control.
* If you could remember who you really are: a human being, vast enough to hold everything you have been through, without being defined by it.
What if you could trust that you still carry this spark, no matter how lost you might feel?
I’m here for that conversation, do you want it?
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