Real Freedom Begins When Therapy/Treatment Looks Beyond Identity
Most of what’s called ‘healing’ is still built on one flawed assumption:
That there is a solid, separate self that needs fixing.
A broken identity,
A dysregulated person,
A character with wounds,
A diagnosis,
and many stories stories.
But if you look closely… where is it? all of these form around ‘I” I have this, I am that, this happened to me, that happened to me.
You can’t locate a self inside your body, no matter how hard you try.
You can’t hold your personality in your hand.
It shifts depending on the room you’re in, who you’re with, how you’re feeling.
It’s not fixed,
It’s not even personal,
It’s a fluid experience – shaped by conditioning, memory, nervous system states, and survival responses.
And yet… therapy still tries to fix that, there’s a central you, trying to get somewhere…
It mostly focuses on improving the self-concept, managing symptoms, rewriting narratives.
But who is it all happening to? Have you ever wondered?
This is the trap,
If your healing is based on a false premise – that there’s a consistent ‘you’ who’s the problem –
Then the whole system becomes self-reinforcing, iatrogenic harm, we are confirming something that isn’t true.
You chase clarity and feel more confused,
You go to therapy and feel more broken,
You do the work and somehow stay stuck.
There’s just something happening in you.Real healing doesn’t require fixing a self,
It requires seeing through it.
Yes – the nervous system holds memory.
Yes – survival strategies protect what once felt unsafe.But even these don’t belong to a fixed identity,
They’re intelligent responses, not flaws.And when therapy starts meeting the truth beneath the illusion of ‘me’ –
That’s when something shifts.
The person relaxes, the system reorients, and what remains isn’t a better version of you – it’s the freedom that was never touched by the story at all.
That’s what Infinite Recovery Project Recovery points to, not another identity to construct.
But the falling away of what was never real to begin with, at the meeting point of the Absolute truth of Non Dual Wisdom, and Relative experience of Trauma.
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